吸引力往往是一种本能。然而,如果你想用你的人格或者专业吸引人,你可以创造一种更容易让她们发现你吸引力的环境。如果你可以朝着积极的社会交往前进,学会吸引别人可以给你带来更好的交流以及人际关系。
步骤
方法 1 的 2:
在社交上吸引人
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把自己放在动态的情景中。许多人把这个称为“让自己投入进去”。无论你是在寻找新的工作、朋友、男朋友、或是人脉,融入新的人群中可以让自己在社会环境中更加如鱼得水。[1]
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好好打扮。在进入社会场合前注意一下你的外表,这可能会促使人与你交流。
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微笑以及进行眼神交流。如果在你认识了别人或者开了玩笑之后这样做,你会给人予迷人的印象。
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积极一点。通常那些乐于与人交流的人更能吸引人,因为比较容易进行一个话题。这可以称为“积极能量”。
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记住别人的名字。在你听见别人名字之后重复一遍。然后,试着用你的记忆技巧记住它,比如在你的脑海中重复它,用韵律或者头韵法。[2]
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问问题。人们喜欢谈论自己。他们可能会再次追求你或者变得对你感兴趣。[3]
- 以称赞他们的服装开始话题。
- 问:“你是怎么认识主人家的?”
- 指出你们的共同点,比如“似乎我们都是酒迷/艺术迷/时装迷。你最喜欢的种类是什么?”
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不要讽刺和嘲笑别人。这种“负面能量”有可能让人讨厌。永远不要尝试为了给别人留下印象而贬低别人。
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在你给对方留下良好印象的时候结束话题。避免像健康、绯闻、钱、以及信仰类的话题。借故离开并且重复对方的名字,让他留下深刻的印象。
- 说:“约翰,认识你真的很开心。”
- 试着以“愉快。简洁。消失。”为座右铭。让他为你着迷,并且想要更多。[4]
方法 2 的 2:
吸引异性
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微笑着说:“你好.”几乎所有的话题都是以这个开场白开始。如果其他人没有注意到你,现在他们就会发现你。[5]
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不要站在一大群人之中。确保你旁边不超过两个人。一大群男女站在一起可能会相互关切,而你也会散发出你在找寻你同伴的信号。
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积极一点。永远不要以抱怨开始你们的话题,否则你会捣碎你们间所有积极的能量。[6]
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注意肢体暗示。对方可能会暗示你他们已经被你吸引,让你知道是时候可以开始暧昧了。寻找眼神的交流,凝视着房子的另一边,甚至是带点不安靠的更近。
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眼神交流。靠近一点,触摸他的手臂,建立更多积极的能量。
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展示真实的兴趣。问对方一些问题,避免是与不是的回答。
- 比如问:“你最喜欢什么类型的音乐?”或者“最近你看了什么电影?”来破冰。
- 当破冰后,试着问:“这个兴趣似乎很有趣。你还有什么娱乐呢?”
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让对方想要的更多。你可以借故离开并要求交换号码或者去找在酒吧的朋友。给别人思考的机会能让你更加吸引人。
- 同样地,一些交际顾问建议用等待来让关系达到极点。保持一定的距离可以增加吸引力,让你试着开始一段关系并且了解对方。[7]
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寻找一个新的地点。如果你不想吸引你常去酒吧的那些人,试着找一个新的地方。你可能还没有找到受你吸引的人。