怎么安抚因为压力而感到焦虑的男人

谁都不忍心看着心爱的男人焦虑不安，但好在安慰他的方法有很多。缓解焦虑的关键就是让他知道只要他需要，你都会陪在他身边。下面介绍了12种简单的方法，教你如何安慰一个备受压力折磨的男人。

步骤

1

寻找焦虑的外在表现

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2

听他讲述经受的压力

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   • 你可以问他，“你看起来真的很焦虑。你想和我说说吗？说出来你可能会觉得好受些。没准儿我能帮上忙。”

3

问他你能够做些什么

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   • 有时，人们自己也不知道如何才能解除压力。这时你可以提建议，比如问他，“你想喝一杯吗？”或者“你最喜欢的电视剧更新了，咋俩要不要一起看？”

4

告诉他他并不孤单

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   • 如果他的压力来自工作，你可以说，“有任何要我帮忙的尽管开口。”

5

用肢体接触安慰对方

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6

允许他发泄情绪

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   • 你也可以说，“生气伤心是正常的。把你的情绪发泄出来吧。我不会因此瞧不起你。”

7

就他的烦恼提问

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   • 你可以提些不具有威胁性的问题，比如，“你觉得这个方法怎么样？”或者问他，“在不同的情况下，你会如何处理这个问题？”

8

温和地提出建议

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   • 如果你有更好的点子，就对他说，“要不你试试这种方法？”

9

帮他按摩

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10

为他烹饪美食

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11

关掉电子设备，专心陪伴他

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12

一起锻炼身体

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小提示

• 即便你也无能为力，你仍然可以在他需要的时候陪在他身边。