怎么接受你迷恋的人不喜欢你的事实

你刚刚发现你迷恋的那个人并不喜欢你。现在该怎么办？是闷闷不乐？还是死缠烂打，期望对方回心转意？后一种做法很可能让你更加深陷泥沼，令对方烦不胜烦。这种情况下，最健康也是最有尊严的处理方式就是面对现实，重新出发。为了忘记被拒绝的伤痛，你可以让自己忙碌起来，和对方保持距离，调整心态，以及保持情绪稳定健康。

步骤

保持忙碌

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   • 你是不是因为爱上他而无暇顾及自己的兴趣爱好？将这些爱好捡起来吧，是时候重新开始了。
2. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/3\/3c\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-2-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-2-Version-3.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/3c\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-2-Version-3.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-2-Version-3.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 2 结识新面孔。与其在对你毫无兴趣的人身边打转，不如出去结识一些新面孔，和懂得欣赏你的人来往。虽说你不必着急寻找下一个恋爱对象，但也不要害羞，要大胆地和各种各样的人接触，认识些新的朋友。^[2]
   • 学校、课外活动、社区俱乐部以及志愿者活动都是结交朋友的好场所。
3. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/4\/4f\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-3-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-3-Version-3.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/4\/4f\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-3-Version-3.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-3-Version-3.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 3 尝试一些完全不同的事情。忘记过去，扩宽视野的另一个方法是挑战自我。你是不是一直都想做某件事，但总是没有勇气迈出第一步？还等什么呢？现在正是挑战自我的好时机！ ^[3]
   • 比如，为演出试镜，自己一个人旅行，或者应聘一份新的工作。

和他保持距离

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   • 你迷恋的人可能因为很多原因无法喜欢你。也许他早就心有所属，也许他把你当成朋友，而不是合得来的恋爱对象。无论如何，问题都不在你身上。
2. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/9\/94\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-5-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-5-Version-3.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/9\/94\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-5-Version-3.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-5-Version-3.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 2 告诉他你需要一些时间平复心情。如果你爱的人也是你的朋友，被拒绝过后，你自然不能再像从前一样和他相处。告诉对方，你需要远离他一段时间来整理心情。如果他真把你当好朋友，一定会理解你，尊重你的意愿。
   • 如果你们不是朋友，你就没有必要向他解释什么了。事实上，什么都不说也许更好。
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   • 等你有一天彻底忘记了情伤，还是可以再添加他为好友的。
4. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/d\/d9\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-7-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-7-Version-3.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/d\/d9\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-7-Version-3.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-7-Version-3.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 4 远离那些他可能出现的地方。你可能想在学校的走廊或者公司的茶水间偷瞄他一眼。不管这种想法有多么强烈，你都要管好自己。你应该和他保持最大的距离。如果不得已必须和他天天见面，就坐得离他远些，避免和他交谈。^[6]
   • 保持礼仪。如果碰见了就打个招呼，然后各走各路。千万不要磨磨蹭蹭，或者试图和他聊天。
5. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/c\/c7\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-8-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-8-Version-3.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/c\/c7\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-8-Version-3.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-8-Version-3.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 5 不要向你们共同的朋友打探对方的消息。如果你和他有共同的朋友，务必让朋友们知道你正在“疗伤”，所以暂时不要在你面前提起一切有关对方的事情。当然，你也不能打听对方的近况，或者他是否有了约会的对象。这么做也许会让旧情死灰复燃。
6. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/3\/31\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-9-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-9-Version-3.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/31\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-9-Version-3.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-9-Version-3.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 6 远离某些娱乐方式，免得睹物思人，触景生情。虽然音乐、电影和文学作品能够帮助你从一厢情愿的单恋中走出来，但有的媒体却能触动你感情的伤口，让你陷在痛苦中不能自拔。所以你需要暂时远离这样的娱乐方式，选择那些与他无关的音乐，书籍或者电影。
   • 试试短暂地逃避现实。有些小说或者电视节目能够给你带来一种与日常生活完全不同的体验。

让情感得到治愈

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2. 2 允许自己为这段没能开花结果的感情而悲伤。虽然你和他从没开始过，但在你心中，是不是有种“痛失”爱人的感觉？给自己时间和空间好好埋葬这段感情吧，这样你就能安心地继续前行了。
   • 迷恋某个人就像是谈一场想象的、一厢情愿的恋爱。你对他热烈、羞涩的爱在想象中孕育着，但这爱却得不到回报。你需要时间和空间来斩断情丝，将他忘记。
3. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/8\/86\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-11.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-11.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/8\/86\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-11.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-11.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 3 寻求支持。向那些重视你的人，比如朋友和家人寻求支持。一开始，你可以痛哭流涕，向他们大吐苦水，然后，好好享受和他们在一起的时光。用一天的时间和朋友们外出游玩，或者拜访一大家子人，你一定会有雨过天晴的感觉，而受伤的自尊心也会神奇般地得到恢复。^[8]
4. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/c\/c5\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-12.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-12.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/c\/c5\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-12.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-12.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 4 列出自己的优点。和你在一起的人应该感到幸运，因为你有很多优点。拿出纸和笔，坐下来写下自己所有的优点。这些优点可以大体一些，比如善良；也可以稍微怪异一些，比如总能记住对方最爱的食物。把这张单子留着，情绪低落的时候拿出来看看。^[9]
5. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/8\/89\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-13.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-13.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/8\/89\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-13.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-13.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 5 想想对方的缺点。人无完人，以前你总是戴着粉色的滤镜看对方，所以才对他的缺点视而不见。和他保持一段距离之后，回想一下他有哪些让人无法忍受的行为。比如他笑起来很怪异，或者他总是忘记你的名字。想着想着，你对他的好感就会马上大打折扣。^[10]
6. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/0\/0a\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-14.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-14.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/0\/0a\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-14.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-14.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 6 用充满创意的方式表达自己。把你的情感用写作、绘画、音乐，或者其它任何艺术形式表达出来。你可以把作品和其他人分享，也可以自己珍藏——怎么处理由你自己决定。^[11]
7. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images_en\/thumb\/e\/e3\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-15.jpg\/v4-460px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-15.jpg","bigUrl":"https:\/\/www.zenmeban.com\/images\/thumb\/e\/e3\/Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-15.jpg\/v4-728px-Accept-that-Your-Crush-Doesn%27t-Like-You-Step-15.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><\/div>"} 7 照顾好自己。你的感情和自尊可能受到了些许的伤害，所以在恢复的过程中，你要温柔地对待自己。上课或者上班的时候适当偷些懒。与其窝在家整天看电影点外卖，用这种方法埋葬悲伤，还不如吃些好的，做做运动，享受一些真正的快乐。^[12]
   • 比如，去你最爱的咖啡馆泡上一天，或者剪个你心仪已久的发型。