为第一次去男友家做好准备

当你认识不久的恋人第一次邀请你去他家里做客时，你肯定感到很兴奋，同时也有一点战战兢兢。如果他有室友，或者和家里人一起住，你的心里可就更发怵了。在去他家之前，建议你读一读这篇文章，确保自己已经做好了准备。

步骤

安排好在他家可以进行的娱乐活动

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   • 如果他和家人住在一起，你可能要计划和他们一起共进晚餐。
   • 如果他和室友住在一起，你可以放松些，和他们小酌几杯。

穿着舒适的服装

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   • 不用花太多心思挑选鞋子，因为你可能一进屋就要把鞋脱掉。你最好穿运动鞋、平底鞋、靴子等穿脱便捷的鞋子。

准备好见他的父母或室友

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   • 如果他有室友，出于礼貌，你最好先和他们打招呼，聊几分钟后再去男友的房间。
   • 如果他和父母住在一起，你可以在男友的引导下决定是否要和他们聊天。如果不聊天，你至少应该介绍自己，这样才显得有礼貌。如果不知道说什么，就当着男友父母的面表扬他——两位老人肯定会乐开花。
   • 第一次和男友的家人或室友见面可能会让你非常紧张。如果你害怕表现不好，那就事先向男友打听一下室友或家人的情况，准备好要问的问题。比如，你可以问他妈妈的陶器生意做得怎么样，或者问他室友的大学生活是否顺利。

遵守家里的规矩

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   • 如果你不清楚该怎么做，那就照着男友的样子做。他住在这个家里，家里的规矩对他而言肯定是烂熟于心。

放心地使用卫生间

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   • 如果你对在别人家上厕所这件事超级介意，可以随身带一瓶 “神奇扑扑丽”。这是一种大便前喷在马桶里的除臭剂，能够消除任何如厕时产生的异味。

带上饮料或零食

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   • 如果他和室友或家人住在一起，你得多买些零食和大家分享。零食能帮你收买人心，给大家留下不错的印象。

打包行李以便过夜

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   • 如果第二天你和男友有计划，那么你需要打包几件干净的衣服，以便第二天早上更换。被忘了带上化妆品。

不要对男友家的清洁卫生情况发表意见

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   • 如果他的屋子脏乱得让人无法忍受，你可得留意了。邀请女友到家里做客之前却不收拾打扫，这说明他对脏乱的环境已经习以为常了（这可能是个危险的信号）。

小提示

• 第一次上男友家绝对会让你感到焦虑、紧张。但是受邀是件好事，说明你们的关系进展得非常顺利，你只需记住这点就够了。